Society tells me that I need a degree in order to succeed in my life.
My family tells me that while I don’t need a degree, I need a job & SAHM’s are not a job.
God tells me, “She must be well respected by everyone because of the good she has done. Has she brought up her children well? Has she been kind to strangers and served other believers humbly?[a] Has she helped those who are in trouble? Has she always been ready to do good?” -1 Timothy 5:10
Society tells me to chase my dreams, that the world is my oyster.
My family says, “Be practical”, pursue a career in anything but the arts.
God says, “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” -1 Corinthians 6:19-20
“Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” -Matthew 28:19-20
Society tells me that money really does buy happiness…and friends…and fame…
My family says that money doesn’t buy you anything except a nice roof over my head and food in my belly…but they still buy lottery tickets in hope they’ll strike it rich.
God says, “But people who long to be rich fall into temptation and are trapped by many foolish and harmful desires that plunge them into ruin and destruction.” 1 Timothy 6:9
“Those who love money will never have enough. How meaningless to think that wealth brings true happiness!” -Ecclesiastes 5:10
Society tells me to put my career first. Put me first. I should have a baby before I’m 30, but I’m more likely to have a successful marriage if I wait until I’m older.
My family tells me that I should have waited to marry – experience what the world has to offer.
I say, why should marriage or motherhood prevent me from experience the world? Why can’t I share those experiences with my best friend?
God says, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” –Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Society tells me that I need to have kids before I’m 30, or I risk having a mentally disabled child.
My family tells me that I’m too young to have kids & I should wait.
God says, “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” -Psalm 127:3
“But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! When you produce much fruit, you are my true disciples. This brings great glory to my Father.” -John 15:7-8
Society tells me to embrace my sexuality – wear what I want and do who I want, but don’t hesitate to label me anyways. Either a slut or a prude.
My family says I have to cover myself or I’ll make men sin.
God says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”-1 Samuel 16:7
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” Proverbs 31:30
There hasn’t been a time in my life where I haven’t had someone butt in with their opinion about my life – I should do this, not that. I should say this, not that. I should talk to this person, not that person. I should do this with my son, not the other way.
It’s overwhelming. I feel like I’m a bridal bouquet that two women are fighting over. Or the fairy godmothers that can’t decide which color Aurora’s dress should be (blue? pink?). I’ve learned I can’t please everyone. Someone, somewhere, is offended by my choices.
A long time ago, I accepted Christ into my heart and a few years after that, I surrendered my life to Him – I was ready to pursue a life that glorified the Lord and it’s been a constant battle.
I know the plans God has for me (at lease most of them). I see the road ahead, a long twisty road full of infinite struggles, but a road that I’m positive God has set for me. And one of the biggest struggles is my family and society pulling me away from the path. As I get closer to it’s destination, the struggle increases. I can feel I’m close to where God wants me because I’m nervous, I feel deep spiritual battles in my life, and non-believers think I’m nuts.
I’d just like to share a few tips I’ve learned as I walk down my path Abba set out for me.
1| Set your eyes upon the Throne. God is the only one you should be taking advice from (and select earthly elders). It’s His path and He leads the way.
2| Consult scripture. If you are unsure about your path, open the Bible. If there’s anything that contradicts what you’re pursuing, it’s safe to say your not on the right path.
3| Take what your family says with a grain of salt. If I listened to everything my family said, I don’t know how many experiences I missed out on. Evangelizing during spring break, marrying my husband, having my son, pursing a career in writing, deciding to finish my last two years in high school in homeschool, etc. They may think they have your best interest at heart, but they can’t see the full picture. Only God can, only He knows the plans he has for you.
4| Don’t compare your experiences with others. I know it’s hard in this social media age, I do it too. When you’re single and friends are married. When you want a baby and your newsfeed is all pregnancy announcements. When your friend buys a house and you’re still living in an apartment. When your friend goes on a year mission trip to Africa. Those things might be in your future, but you have to be patient. Don’t compare paths.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” -Romans 12:2