15 Things To NOT Say To a New Mom

Have you ever been given parenting advice and felt like “thanks, you really shouldn’t have”?

This past October, I welcomed my first child into the world – a sweet little boy, who has my whole heart.

While there were many helpful suggestions given to me postpartum, most of the advice given was not helpful in any way. Some of the conversations were downright rude, like commenting on my postpartum body or telling me when I should conceive the next one.

Overwhelmed by the constant conflicting information & hurtful words, I turned to a breastfeeding group for support. I learned that most new mothers often get a lot of unsolicited advice and impolite comments.

Today I’d like to share some examples of things you just should not say.

Click here to read the rest of my post on Kenya Rae’s blog!

Super Easy Banana Cream Torte

This past Sunday, we dedicated our baby to the Lord. Afterwards, we came home to eat & celebrate with friends. The biggest hit that everyone LOVED was my banana cream torte. Because I’m feeling nice today, I’ll share the recipe from you (which has been modified from Paula Deen’s “ain’t your mommas banana pudding).


  • 6-8 bananas, sliced
  • 2 boxes vanilla wafers
  • 1 box cream cheese, softened
  • 1 box vanilla pudding, 5oz
  • 2 cups milk
  • 1 container Cool Whip 
  • 1/2 can sweet condensed milk


  1. In a 9×13 pan (or for easy clean up, one of those dollar store throw away lasagna pans), dump one box of cookies on bottom of pan. Put sliced bananas evenly on top.
  2. In one bowl, mix milk and pudding. 
  3. In another bowl, mix cream cheese & condensed milk. 
  4. Fold in cool whip
  5. Add mix to pudding, stir. 
  6. Coat evenly on top of banana/cookies. 
  7. Cover with 2nd box of cookies (evenly organized like I did or you can crumble the cookies). 
  8. Refrigerate and serve. 

Let me know how you like it! It was the first dessert gone yesterday & I’ll probably make it more often.