This is something I’ve struggled with for years because I’ve grown up to be taught Eve was created because Adam was bored and that Adam needed someone to cook and care for him. I grew up in a religion that taught that women cannot be fulfilled, truly fulfilled, until they have a husband and children.
I remember sitting in my son’s rocking chair…it was 2am and my beautiful baby boy was having some troubles going to sleep. He was fussy and crying but nothing I was doing seemed to calm him…I remember thinking to myself, “I’m his mother. How can I not even calm my own child? Maybe I’m not ready…maybe I’m not meant to be a mother…I’m just making matters worse…”
Have you ever been given parenting advice and felt like “thanks, you really shouldn’t have”?
This past October, I welcomed my first child into the world – a sweet little boy, who has my whole heart.
While there were many helpful suggestions given to me postpartum, most of the advice given was not helpful in any way. Some of the conversations were downright rude, like commenting on my postpartum body or telling me when I should conceive the next one.
Overwhelmed by the constant conflicting information & hurtful words, I turned to a breastfeeding group for support. I learned that most new mothers often get a lot of unsolicited advice and impolite comments.
Today I’d like to share some examples of things you just should not say.
I picked up Sally Clarkson’s book, “The Ministry of Motherhood”, purely based off of Goodreads reviews (pretty much five stars) and the fact that I’ve been eager to open my literary heart to books related to motherhood and raising children. Though I am only a quarter of the way through, I’ve realized what a fantastic resource this book is. Sally is a fantastic writer, whom often paints amazing pictures of what biblical times may have looked like.